Holding On? We humans can become attached to anything.

We humans can become attached to anything – material objects, people, ideas, thoughts, or actions. Americans living in a highly commercialzed society rife with “reference anxiety” (keeping up with the joneses) are especially prone to attachment. We are told from our very earliest years what we “need” in order to be liked, respected, to get…

Do our lives need a narrative?

The storytelling self is as real a part of us as the experiencing, fleeting self… By psychotherapist Antonia Macaro and philosopher Julian Baggini . The Shrink It may seem obvious that the story of our life to date is just what it is, and that we can only change it in flights of fancy. But…

Constructive Living

 Accept your feelings, know your purpose, do what needs to be done. .. “The key is not to resist or rebel against the symptoms or to try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks, that is, to accept them directly as they are without shunning them.” – Takahisa Kora, MD . Accept…

Dicing onions leads to the path of self discovery

For three months, I questioned my every thought and every action – everything. How I brushed my teeth, answered the phone, opened a door, spoke to a salesperson. One day I was dicing onions and asked myself, “why am I cutting these this way? There are other ways. Why do I do it this particular…

Four Steps for Creative Risk-Taking

What are the characteristics of “risk-takers”, “on the edge” individuals who climb the highest mountains, sail around the world alone at age 16, take an idea from the garage to the global market…? They are not overly preoccupied with making mistakes or with social disapproval; they are able to tolerate the anxiety of separateness. They…